Addressing the inner child wounds

 Inner child wounds are an all pervasive suppressed emotional pain that grows over time and can remain stubbornly stuck within if the right kind of reparenting is not provided. Why is reparenting required in the first place? Why do parents in most cases continue to pass on their inner traumas and expect resolve through their children? Why can't parents face their own inner child issues, emotional neglect, disappointments, anger issues and so on and focus equally on their emotional regulation and release and not just prioritizing on material acquisition and financial success alone?

I have been such an example of a severely wounded inner child and despite my age still carry deep seated self esteem issues and seek approval from others, dependent on team work rather than work as a sole member who is completely confident in her individual abilities, dissociate often in order to cope up with my dysfunctional emotional regulation which had become my pattern unfortunately, and figuring out how to forgive myself and my parent (single mother) and my caretakers who all practiced neglect, and had difficulty to express themselves and were severely emotionally handicapped owing to their own broken childhood and inner child issues.

Therefore physically growing and aging is all that I did anyway but taking the time to look into my buried inner life and addressing my neglected inner child who could not have a voice of her own and grew up wanting to be joyful, to express enthusiasm freely, and be creative in thriving as an imaginative, artistically oriented, and sensitive child who feels deeply her own emotions as well as others is what I have grieved for a while now. 

To liken inner child wounds to that of a limitation or lack is an insensitive approach but to be kind enough to see this buried heaviness as part of one's past and to be alive to it is a beautiful way of seeing the shadow through the lens of inner guidance and accepting this shadow as an integral aspect of oneself and to care and address it with love is being self inclusive and unconditionally accepting at the best human level possible.

Because unresolved inner child hurts and traumas manifest as emotional pain that block our energy fields from growing and receiving positive energies which help manifest our present and future seamlessly and with a sense of direction, it becomes imperative to heal, release and reparent as needed just to check in with the inner child from time to time. And what we cannot do ourselves, we cannot expect others to do it for us and make the inner conflicts and dense emotional trappings go away. 

What has been done to us is an undoing responsibility within ourselves and once we begin to set ourselves free, then freedom of self expression in a natural sense of joy, innocence, curiosity, enthusiasm becomes the authentic self and is enough by itself without having to seek approval or acceptance from others. 

How we finally respond to our lives is all that matters - I would rather with curiosity, empathy, sensitivity, imagination, and pragmatic problem solving and would need my inner child to be my very own cheerleader to live life to the fullest.