It's time for the shift in you!!!

 There's always a season, a time for things to be the way they are. They seem like that will be the way forever, but it isn't. Time is not static, linear, or simply proportionate to one's emotions, feelings, and experiences. Time feels like it has stopped when there seems to that one conclusive moment that feels so interconnected with the past and the present and no worries whatsoever about the future arises, and there's another when time feels frozen, static as if there's no energy left in it to be moving, flowing, and it feels stuck in the mind, in the body, in survival mode.

We learn to survive our variations of times and our association with it is owing to our relative feelings that we might be feeling at that point of time and so our association with our memories seem timeless, as if it can be retrieved or it cannot be forgotten no matter what, depending upon the emotions it evokes within us while recollecting it. 

Do we adapt to our growth as a human being in our given span of time or can we say we live, we mature to grow, not live to survive from time to time until we die. Death is anyways inevitable, but aliveness in a person need not die at the cost of living one's patterns day in and day out and justifying it as everyday routine. 

We need routines but if we keep adapting to our victimhood versions of ourselves from our past, then we make our entire life and existence seem small as if there's nothing more to life than just adapting to playing small, feeling wronged, spreading toxicity and bitterness, jealousy, hatred on others disguised as vulnerability and weakness.

Nothing can bring back lost opportunities and lost time to make the past things right. We can only try to set right how attached we are still to our past and loosen its grip on us, if we allow it to happen and step into truer versions of ourselves one day at a time.

Time is not a mirror that should reflect our expectations from life. Time is presence of one's energy from one moment to another. The heaviness or lightness that that particular moment in time that's frozen is what needs to be addressed. Not relived as if time has stopped and life is supposed to adapt by itself in order to put us back in a harmonious flow in sync with our resources, support and life situations. Because life continues even if our time on earth dies. 

So, live without regrets, without shame, or blaming others. What you gift yourself in return is the freedom of being true to yourself and loving yourself for it. Because your self expression is not separate from you - it's an all new you way of seeing yourself and feeling good about it because you deserve it. Because you only live once as yourself in this lifetime. 

 I am thankful to my body, to my mind, my spirit for being so supportive of me. I am beginning to learn to value it to honor it for what level and how in depth their services have been towards running my life. And this honoring and acknowledging this truth that my body is where I am centered in and the heart that holds all the aliveness and emotions for life, for feelings, for experiences is where my balance and my expansion also lies. 

I am a work in progress towards being true to my feelings and honest self expressions in all that I am and all that I do. Thank you God/Lord Muruga for giving me this opportunity for expressing my gratitude to you.

Trust in life's abundance, trust in your growth

 To trust in my ability to be grounded, healthy, calm, and mindful is a beautiful affirmation for me that I wish to read and absorb into. To release all those limiting beliefs which made more and more room for a diluted concept of me as if there's no meaning whatsoever in my life and experiences (is what made me deviate and get stuck with old patterns) which decayed my scope of learning from my life experiences.

Meaning comes when I allow myself to receive the abundance of life that the creator  has already blessed in His many forms and shapes in my life and to develop awareness of it despite certain challenges that may happen time and again to test my sense of commitment to be true to my self and my faith to the higher energy from within.

The open hearted trust to believe in life's abundance (rather than focus in a narrowed down way my limitations (whatever they be) and to keep wanting to adapt to them so that I can survive) is my shift now.

To trust the universe is kind, giving, and reciprocates to the intentions of your heart and soul is the matrix that we are living in now. So, be kind to yourself, speak and act lovingly to yourself. We are part of this huge universal vessel which is perfect and complete in its own way. Just being your natural, real, true self mirrors this to the universe as it adds to the fabric and life of the universe (we are parts of the whole) which is all permeating.

From dark womb to cosmic light

 Our mothers become the reasons through whom we come to see this world, to experience this life. The bond between mother and child, the first relationship for the child towards love, purity, belonging, is the basis or reason for the child to want to stay alive and navigate his/her given life through his mother, the primordial connection to earth and all beings that he might encounter there.

It seems as if the pain of separation from the creator is eased somewhat assumingly when the world around is seen by the child through the lens of his mother in the infant stages. Maybe the reason for the child to wake up, walk, laugh, eat, cry, and so much more is to take baby steps into living his life by falling down and picking himself up until it becomes a habit in the later years of his life.

There comes a time for some of us when life can feel heavy because of all the blocks that one might have picked up assuming that living around it is what life is all about it - emotional, psychological blocks around survival, safety, inclusivity if heavily trauma ridden and not realized and released can make the path back home a pretty bumpy ride.

The path back home is when life comes full circle to remind us that the actual journey begins here beyond the literal physical age, body, and its limitations and not in the number of days trying to survive and get looped into the push-pull dynamics of life karmically.

Although one's karmic account cannot be set aside as that becomes a marking point to start the journey back to where we came from, whichever cosmic space it maybe. There's no rush to get there as we are inevitably getting there one day at a time. But a sense of relief does come when I personally feel that pains, pressures, tensions, frustrations, small joys, simple reasons for happiness, indulging impulsively in luxuries, and other sensory oriented pleasures, and so much more shall also pass. 

To live each day as of it's the last day of your life does ring true because no one knows when the last day might be. Fear is then not needed in order to want to resist this truth. 

We have to learn as long we are here to play well. Be a sport and play, fall, pick up, leap, pause, wander, come back, refocus and it just goes on until our last breath. All that heaviness in our hearts to want to grapple and make sense of our traumas and blocks is at last a channel, a means to move forward with life as life that's given by the creator is supportive whenever it's truly needed for us and for our higher good. 

From the dark womb to the cosmic light, our journey is beautiful, unique, mysterious, and a stop gap path until we are made ready by the innumerable factors, some seen and unseen, our own choices, and divine energies guiding us to get back home safe.

We cannot be escapists meandering in life without purpose, but to try to live well with whatever means in our hands possible is the first in the list. To get more clear, goal oriented and focused with ample grounding is another aspect that I am currently working on, and strive for balance, emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually is another hidden goal and aspect that's work in progress.

From one choice point to another, our lives are contained, chaotic, cathartic, as well as enlightening. 

Real growth

My mother-in-law doesn't like to take responsibility for her actions, her behavior, her happiness, her feelings, her emotions, and in short, her life. She is hyper observant, judgmental of those around who aren't being responsible in any way towards her feelings, and when it comes to taking responsibility for her life, she tosses it aside as if without any care and gets often trapped in her past narrative of how much trauma she was caught in and how helpless and humiliated and stripped off support from family she was. In truth she keeps people at a distance even if it's for a small drop in their attitudes and communication which she takes the right to interpret, and even if as intuitively done but projected on others as if they are in the wrong and that she is flawlessly perfect as she assumes herself to be.

Just because people have been on the worse side of trauma, does it give them the right to devalue, judge, compare and put down others and simply become more and more bitter nitpicky, nagging, and a thorough energy vampire who can gaslight others to flames effortlessly. My mother-in-law is one such prime example of growing up bitterly through age and being on the extreme ends of looking at life or people and maybe never seeing, accepting, and empathizing genuinely with the middle shades. She locks herself in her myriad world of emotions and feelings which she feels intensely and expects others to understand her without her expressing clearly, objectively the purpose behind so many emotions and feelings. 

It's like she sets herself up to ice-skate on slippery ice made from her frozen tears, her unresolved emotions, and a fragile mind which is so prone to breaking up at the drop of a hat.

And her life if at all anything has been a repeat way to push her to strike a balance within herself and not look for shortcuts by blaming others for her losing her way in the world of extremes. 

I feel sad for her lack of objectivity, her intense want to discern people and read situations without allowing her feelings to come in the middle, and wanting her ego to say it all and have the final word, as if proving to the world over and over again that she is significant and that her traumas have made her feel really important and that the world outside is too insensitive to not wholly acknowledge it, and so giving her the license to be bitter, vengeful, manipulating, bad mouthing and gaslighting people. 

Do traumas make us more ego driven and entitled people? Or do they really help us change our perspective from a victim with a sympathy seeking persona to that of a open hearted person who empathizes with others troubles mindfully, who cares for others on the grounds of humanity without personal bias.

The harsh truth is that my mother-in-law is real when it suits her needs and dramatic when others get what they want seemingly "easily" as if implying it's by fluke, and as if all the efforts in the world so far have been done only by her as she witnesses the "injustice" of the victorious over the victims. The extremely dramatic attempt to relive her past, and yes it's been completely stressful at best and a lot of forgiveness from her towards herself and others are the only key to free herself from her locked in past which she sees as a mark of weakness as holding on and not forgiving is what she thinks reminds her of how strong yet helpless, how controlled yet individually skilled she was and she has been all along. 

Trauma is a teacher to some and a cause to self sabotage for others. Our karmic account doesn't feel the pinch of our hurts, regrets, conflicting emotions and tumultuous feelings, and yet all these need to be felt, grieved, released, forgiven sometimes, expressed through art, journaling, talking, singing and so much more, and in short to open a portal within ourselves to create possibilities to recreate ourselves through the seedings of trauma and blossoming through inner truths.

Real growth is painful. And the more we resist growing up, the sadder and lonelier life seems to get without any exceptions. Humans, until they are alive and until their karmic account is active for their current birth, will have to learn to become subjects of vested interest from themselves individually and from that of others so that the fine balance of connection between both is alive - because we don't live only for ourselves and neither can we live only for others - we just need a good blend of both so that we grow up whole and full as much as possible in this lifetime.

My faith has grown stronger and even if fears threatened to lurk in the shadows like uninvited guests, but when the spotlight of my truths came to the centerstage, it was as if I finally found the courage to come out and to be me. Whether people liked this version or they criticized, or were utterly indifferent, it didn't matter anymore. Faith in a higher energy and faith in myself have been the constant tug of war within me and when both these come together as potent synergies, they blend to become one.

 

Move beyond fear to let go fears

 Fear to let go our fears is the central glue that keeps us bound to our conditioned beliefs which keep us doubting our true potential as humans, and triggers anxieties when our authentic sleeves are not fully expressed. When this fear tries to keep us feeling small, afraid to risk putting our best foot forward, then being in fear becomes a natural response as if restraining oneself to take reigns of one's life. 

To let go giving in our power to fear and holding strong our reigns of inner core strength and faith in a higher power is what shifts gears in our journey ahead. Whatever challenges that are bound to come will come, but not at the cost of not exploring our authentic possibilities as individuals in the light of situations. 

This life as this particular person happens only once. And the lessons that come with this life might stay for many lifetimes for the purpose of soul growth. Each day really counts in this lifetime is not then just a cliché, but they all add up in making us ready for one stage of growth to another as energies, as souls.  

From hurt to healing

 Saint Arunagirinathar who has poured his heart out to Muruga Perumaan is the ideal representation of what surrender to the divine would be. The many forms of surrender that flows through many of the saint's poetic, profound and unconditionally loving representations through many of his written works dating back to many centuries ago in Tamizh is proof of love for the language as well as for Lord Muruga who adorns Tamizh as the symbol of His knowledge and divine superiority.

This kind of love that breaks open the heart of the Muruga devotees is the flow that sparkles with truth, courage, and unmasked emotions. And Arunagirinathar is a skilled artisan who chips away one's inner blocks for the beauty and compassion of Muruga's presence to emerge in oneself. This fluidity which purifies in its flow of emotions, one suppressed feelings, judgements, past hurts, ignorance, and darkness is a path in itself - the means to Lord Muruga's feet being the end. 

Is Lord Muruga the blessing behind one's problems, or does He delight in testing a person until there's nothing left but to surrender? Is surrender the last option or is it the break open point of acknowledging one's truth and set it free, whether there be problems or none whatsoever. 

Any which way, the visuals that the saint's flow of words evokes is quite unique and a beautiful reminder to stay in the moment to enjoy this divine connection with the Lord.

Broken connections cannot be discarded - they can be repaired, healed, released, and refreshed for more deeper understanding with the other concerned, or simply moving away in order to help oneself release that contact/that acquaintance from one's life. 

Connection with another without honesty is a mere shallow relationship, and if one floats or sinks in it, it doesn't matter. Lord Muruga gives all of  his loving, sincere devotees to reexamine their basis of faith in Him and wipes clean any surface dirt in the form of shallowness or greed or other ulterior negative motive, if they be the reason behind approaching Muruga.

To Him, His devotees are not set separate or higher or lower no matter what be their past background - He is the same to all. The different ways of wanting to open your heart to experience a closer sense of His guidance within you is a matter of your commitment and the courage to believe in His love for you and vice versa. 

He is a balm to those who are constantly plagued by self doubts, anxieties, sadness, anger, fear of uncertainties and generally a life coach to streamlining all these tides in order to not hold back to take the plunge in order to take control and steer clear of your life ahead no matter what comes your way.

The transformation from hurting to the healed is a painful and yet a deeply true one. And I am blessed and lucky to be part of this beautiful journey so far.